The guys have told us what they pay attention to during their first date: This list will annoy you It’s not about the look!
We have already written about how to make a good impression on a date . The appearance, behavior and movement of relevant topics is important. It is enough to include one blunder on these aspects, and we probably will not see the second meeting.
It turns out, however, that men also pay attention to “little things” . It is about things that would not come to our minds in the first thoughts and which we will not attach so much attention to. In this respect, we have good and bad news. Some of the “little things” mentioned above are unchangeable, while others are firmly rooted in a human being – this is the bad news. After all, most can be changed and work on them. In addition, the solution is to find a man similar to himself – this is the good news.
We talked to our friends about dates and what made a good impression of a woman. Among them are both educated, low and high-income men with various interests. Because men were mostly in agreement, we only publish some statements. The names of men have been changed.
George from ibadan, 29 years – Character
“You can see them right away. I value the spirit, empathy, positive attitude towards life. I am discouraged by palatability, malice towards other people, and nosiness. Fortunately, I recognize such women quickly. ”
Chinedu from imo, 25 years – ANIMAL HOLDING
“That says a lot about a woman. The owners of pets are usually empathic and lead a more active and orderly lifestyle. At least for dog owners. If a girl has a dog, she gets a plus from me. ”
lasisi from akure, 30 years – MENTALITY
“I hate the typical Nigerian mentality. Complaining makes me tired and I want to get away from the person who complains. Paradoxically, these are not women who are very experienced by life, but who like to complain about themselves and complain about themselves. They complain and stay in the swamp for years instead of doing something with themselves and their lives. They are often envious. I recognize this type of woman very quickly and run away faster than I am. One date is enough for that. ”
Michaeł from Lagos, 25 years – HOW TO SEND
“What counts for me is the vocabulary and whether the woman uses profanity. I hate the latter. Unfortunately, in the women I meet, I often hear that “he has to leave and the like. Mostly they are very young women who apparently think that swearing is cool, but they also happen to be older. All it takes is one vulgarity on a date so that we can say goodbye forever. ”
Daniel from enugu, 26 years – THE APPROACH TO FINANCIAL MATTERS
“For me it is very important, because although I’m only 26 years old, I earn very well. I see that many girls are running for my money. I consider myself a gentleman and I would never allow myself to pay for a woman I invited on a date, but I would like to pay attention if he offers to cover his part of the bill. In my opinion, this is in a good tone, if for example they see for the first time or the second time in life or know very little. I like independence in women and the approach to financial matters is very important to me. You can get to know them on your first date. Some of the girls I used to meet stretched me on expensive dishes, and then I had to pay bills for a few hundred zlotys. ”
Koffi from ghana, 27 years – LISTENING TO LISTEN
“I hate typical chatter, although I do not like silent things too. In this respect, moderation must be preserved. I really appreciate the ability to listen. If a woman does not have it, she is crossed out for me. What is the pleasure to spend time with a person who speaks only of himself and occasionally ask a question out of politeness. ”
Aliu from Jos, 28 years – CHILD ATTITUDE
“I care about children. I do not ask a woman on the first date whether she wants to have children, but usually she somehow comes out. If my dating does not intend to have children, it is clear that there is no point in continuing to meet. I myself ask about it during the 2-3rd date. This is the moment when people decide what will happen with the relationship.
Dennis from Rivers, 27 years – PERSONAL CULTURE
“Yes, I pay great attention to her. Three magic words: please, thank you and excuse me is a must-have for me. In addition, I pay attention to how a woman treats the staff who handles us on a date, as it applies to older people and me. It is also important to keep at the table when I am taking a woman for a romantic dinner. Under the term “personal culture” there are so many details, and I pay attention to the whole. Girls are overly focused on their appearance and topics of conversation, and neglect other matters. Although personal culture is an acquired thing. ”
Effiong from Calabar, 22 years – A WAY OF EXPRESSING ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE
“I do not tolerate gossiping about friends, coloring a story, being interested in someone else’s life and criticizing how other people live. It’s just their business. For me, this behavior indicates that a woman must have a really boring life, since she is so interested in other people. ”
Patrick from ijebu, 28 years – FOOD
“Maybe it will sound funny, but I pay attention to food. What a woman orders is valuable to me. I do not like those fashionable vegans and women who are hoping about diet. For some, it is not a lifestyle, but an obsession. If a woman orders a fairly normal meal, she has a plus. If it’s a diet salad or some vege-marvel, the second date will not be. ”
Mogaji from Ondo, 32 years old – HOBBY, EDUCATION
“It matters to me because it says a lot about the personality of the woman. For example, those women who like sport are active and can rarely see them lying in front of the TV screen. Education and professional experience, however, tell us a lot about diligence and ambition. I would not associate with a woman whose best entertainment is watching the show and eating sweets at the same time. “